From Sole Butterfly, 9 Months ago, written in Plain Text.
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  15. I don’t believe that a second wife should have to stand in the background while the bio-parents “co-parent” a child from the first marriage.  Sure, for some people they’re comfortable with that mindset, but in my case I could never agree with that perspective.  My boyfriend and I live together which means when the kids are living with him they’re living with me, too.  I’m the mother in my house, and I’ll be damned if I’m just going to sit back.  Luckily my boyfriend and I have completely congruent outlooks on parenting, boundaries, and acceptable behaviors for the kids.  He and his ex-wife couldn’t have opinions that differ MORE.  She’s also a high-conflict person and won’t even co-parent when court-ordered to do so.  So, my boyfriend and I parent the kids, and we don’t even try to concern ourselves with what his ex does.  Yes, we worry about how the kids are doing, but we also live in separate states (for now, the kids are moving into our home permanently in a few months) and we wouldn’t have any control over what his ex does as far as her parenting style if we lived any closer, or any farther away.
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  17. When my boyfriend and I got together, of course I knew he had kids, and I also knew that any relationship with him would involve a relationship with his kids, and his ex, and possibly her family, too.  I accepted that.  She just couldn’t accept that her ex-husband had moved on and was now truly off the market.
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  19. I have also read the Golden Uterus article on Shrink4men.com, and found it to be a spot-on representation of how my boyfriend’s ex-wife treats him, the children, and me.  As the article points out, if she’d been such a good wife, he wouldn’t have divorced her….  It’s my guess that if the author of the above letter had been a good wife and a good match for her ex-husband, he would have given back in the relationship and wanted to please her…instead of get divorced from her.
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  21. -Annette G.
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  24. The letter above is fictional based on several first wives complaints that are legitimate and founded in truth.  It is not a letter that was sent or would be sent out, just a sentiment of ideas that many first wives feel.
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