From Tiny Porcupine, 10 Months ago, written in Plain Text.
  14. by a Taken In Hand reader on 2005 Jul 27 - 21:10 | reply to this comment
  15. I like it better as it was "in the old days"
  16. Women (most women anyway), like to feel TAKEN CARE OF. That's a hard feeling to get when dates are split equally. I've gone out to eat with male co workers with whom we split the costs of the meal. If I did that with a man I had a romantic involvement with, it would feel as if I was out with a co worker again.
  18. For me it has nothing at all to do with how much money women or men make. It has to do with the desire of many women to feel cared for by the man they love. That is why I like doors held for me, meals paid for for me, being helped on with my coat, etc. It has nothing to do with the pay scale or being a golddigger or anything like has to do with a feeling of being cherished and cared for.
  20. by BlueRose on 2005 Jul 30 - 16:29 | reply to this comment
  21. True, But
  22. Splitting the cost of a date would not only not feel like the man was investing in the relationship (which is how I looked at it) but it would be harder on the woman because of her smaller spending power.
  24. Reciprocation in the form of a small gift or making him dinner is the way to show him that she cares too.
  26. "Pat"
  28. by a Taken In Hand reader on 2005 Aug 1 - 20:35 | reply to this comment
  29. Power struggles and setting new order
  30. Well I don´t find this article potentially dangerous as Sarah does. Maybe it´s just that Taken In Hand men are more men of action and they rather seek good solutions (you know rumour has it that men are generally more solution-oriented) so for some women what Noone and the others write may sound too harsh or potentially nonconsensual.
  32. But in a Taken In Hand relationship men are those who lead so I find nothing wrong in the idea of intruducing this lifestyle to your wife. We have reached it kind of naturally even though I started talking about what turns me on but he always had a clear vision of what "is good for me and what is not". In the beginning I felt absolutely repelled by the idea of being "brought up" but later I found out that I really enjoy his care and that he has proved many times that he is worth my trust.